Cybersex is any type of sexual activity that occurs virtually between two or more individuals including sexting, sharing sexual images or videos with a partner, webcam sex, and chatroom sex. Although some cybersex experiences include visual elements such as photos or video, other cybersex activities involve describing sexual fantasies or scenarios in written or spoken words. In most cases, cybersex involves real-life masturbation by one or all participants.
How safe is cybersex?
Usually, cybersex is considered a safe form of sex. Since the participants do not have physical contact with one another, there is no risk of unplanned pregnancy or transmission of sexually transmitted infections (STIs). However, individuals who engage in cybersex should be cognizant that they risk their privacy if they share personal sexual images or videos with a cybersex partner because that person could potentially share these things with others. Also, people who have cybersex with unknown individuals online should bear in mind that strangers can easily lie about their age, gender, and other personal characteristics on the internet. Therefore, it is not advisable to meet up with an anonymous cybersex partner in person without first confirming their true identity.
What are the different types of cybersex?
Why do people have cybersex?
People may decide to have cybersex when they are unable to have physical sex with a partner due to geographical distance, quarantine related to COVID-19 or another illness, or any other relevant reason. Couples may also engage in cybersex to add variety to their sex lives. Alternatively, some people enjoy cybersex because they find it to be a safe way to express their sexuality in an anonymous environment. This situation may lower a person’s inhibitions and make the experience more enjoyable.
What are some ways a person can safely enjoy cybersex?
As with physical sex, it is a good idea to establish boundaries before a cybersex encounter. Think about which forms of cybersex you are comfortable participating in, and which ones you may not be comfortable with. It is highly recommended that you only share personal photos or videos with cybersex partners who you know and trust. Finally, ensure that you will have uninterrupted time and privacy available for the duration of a cybersex experience to avoid any uncomfortable or embarrassing situations.
Resources:
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Galán, J.P., Deseare, A., Blasco, J.L., & Millán, V.G. (2020). P-07-5 sexting and new cybersex roles through social media. The Journal of Sexual Medicine, 17(6), S213-S214. DOI: https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jsxm.2020.04.364
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